If you follow me on social media, (@AudriWrites) you get a weekly dose of love and life lessons, but I decided to condense those into one list, of 10 of the greatest love lessons. This post should be your one stop shop for lessons on love that are most critical to the evolution of your ability to recognize and love in the purest form.
HERE ARE 10 LESSONS OF LOVE
1 FORGIVENESS DOES NOT HAVE CONDITIONS!
Forgiveness in love should always be done with the expectation to accept what is, and move on. You can't do that if you continue to place conditions on your ability to forgive someone, because when forgiveness has conditions, that person will never really be forgiven... (Click subtitle to read more on why forgiveness should not have conditions!)
2 SELF LOVE IS THE GREATEST LOVE!
To put it plainly, you can't communicate to someone how you need to be loved, if you have no experience loving yourself!
3 YOU CAN'T CHANGE PEOPLE!
A great lesson of love is acceptance, and knowing that you cannot change people! If you are in a relationship with someone who you cannot accept, either walk in the fact that you will never be able to love that individual wholeheartedly, or address those things you can't accept, and see if that person values you enough to change his/herself!
4 EXPECTATIONS ARE ASSUMPTIONS!
We like to use the word expectation interchangeably with standards, when in fact, expectations are presumptions or assumptions of behavior, and/or anticipated events. Your standards have nothing to do with what you expect, so make sure you know the difference. Life is much easier if lived without expectations.
Click HERE to read more on why life is better without expectation!
5 COMPROMISING YOURSELF IS NOT COMPROMISE!
Too many people confuse the idea of compromising one's self with compromising in a situation and unfortunately it's primarily because we blur the lines between marriage and non marital relationships. You can't be in a relationship, in the absence of marriage, and expect an individual to act as one would in a marriage!
If you struggle with identifying the difference between compromising yourself versus compromising in a situation, be sure to read the difference HERE!
6 ACCEPTANCE AND FORGIVENESS ARE LIFE'S GREATEST CHALLENGE!
It's no secret that we live in a world that promotes self-preservation, which yields a self-serving attitude, therefore it should be no surprise that acceptance and the ability to forgive are the life's greatest challenges, amongst other things.
In order to accept others, we have to first have a desire to be accepted, and that lesson usually comes from a family member or someone closest to you. To have someone you accept, not accept you, is the greatest lesson of your inability to accept others.
With regard to forgiveness, it isn't until we ask someone we love dearly to forgive us, that we make an honest attempt to be forgivable. And once we try hard to gain forgiveness, then we realize that forgiving someone, while may be a challenge, is one of the most rewarding lessons in life.
7 ATTRACTION IS LOVE'S BEST FRIEND!
Everything you need in a relationship, you have the desire to obtain because of attraction. There are 4 types of attraction that we don't realize are keys to relationships, Physical, Social, Intrapersonal and Sexual. I think that understanding the role of attraction is important to understanding how and why a relationship will or will not work. Attraction is the bridge to love that we must build in order to love wholeheartedly.
If you missed the post on the 4 types of attraction, click HERE to read more.
8 THERE'S A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN HOLDING A GRUDGE AND ACCOUNTABILITY!
Too many people want to assume that holding someone accountable for their actions looks the same as holding a grudge, and it most certainly does not. Holding a grudge is petty, and holding someone accountable for their actions is just a representation of you valuing yourself.
9 THE POWER OF CHOICE IS OUR GREATEST DOWNFALL!
Choice is our best friend and worse enemy. And while we hold great value for our ability to make our own decisions and choices, we also fall victim to that same freedom.
When we are unhappy with the consequences of our choices and actions, we like to deem ourselves victim, when in fact we are not. We have to be accountable for our poor judgement, learn to make better choices in the future, considering all possible outcomes.
10 SOLITUDE IS NECESSARY IN THE PROCESS OF SELF-ACKNOWLEGEMENT AND SELF-IMPROVEMENT!
You can't learn yourself, if you don't spend time with yourself. In love knowing yourself is your best asset, because you can properly communicate what you need in and from love, to your partner.